[mise]

The entire employment system veers towards these biases. It's shown even in simple things like "you'll need to give us 10 minutes after you're supposed to be finished working this evening, but don't you dare consider taking 10 minutes off tomorrow".

[pc86]

Behavior like this (from the employer/manager) is only acceptable because we let it be acceptable.

I hear examples like this a lot but it simply hasn't been my experience, and I haven't always worked in developer-run (or even developer-friendly) industries or companies.

I 100% accept that I might just have been lucky in my previous and current employment, but any time I've had a doctor's appointment or had to run to the vet or anything like that, I've either made the time up that evening or the next day (one time for a long Wednesday AM appointment, over the next two days).

I say this not to discredit the very real fact that employers like this exist, but only to suggest that this is on the same level as poverty wages and forcing someone to buy their own office supplies. If you work in an environment like this, moving on (either simply by employment or geographically) should be among your top priorities.