My company seems to think that Scrum stand-ups are a replacement for one-on-one meetings. They're very, very wrong. Coordinating work and keeping the project moving forward is one thing, but like Alex points out here, there's far more to management.
Agile methodologies/slack channels/etc. are simply not a replacement for people management. In many companies, the people manager and project manager are the same person, and they generally default to managing the project first. (Squeaky wheel gets the grease, right? And what's squeakier than an executive breathing down your neck?) But when your culture starts dissolving and employees start leaving... well by then it might be too late to get interested in people management.
In my group, morale is a big issue, and retention is about to become one--I know of several people with one foot out the door already. I'm not sure management is even aware.
> My company seems to think that Scrum stand-ups are a replacement for one-on-one meetings. They're very, very wrong.
You're totally correct. I run our Scrum stand-up and I set the timer for 15 minutes- at 15 minutes I used to literally shut down the conference bridge and we're done. I did this to get us in the habit that we needed our morning stand up to be formal, precise, and expedient. We needed to get in the habit of quickly realizing that something needed to be shelved and that the necessary people would follow up with each other later to get into the weeds. I don't hang up any more, and sometimes we go a tad over 15 minutes, but we've gotten our standup to become a well oiled, no bullshit machine.
I feel like this is the complete opposite of a one on one. They should be a meandering, personal, meaningful conversation of depth. They should feel unrushed and the employee should feel that they are listened to.
It could be a sign that your company feels that way about employees that a Scrum standup is a replacement for one on ones, ie: they don't give a shit. More realistically, they probably just don't get that there's no room for the meaningful relationship building that a one on one meeting confers from a time boxed group standup.
If you can, start passing around links to Manager Tools or just drop references to it. It's a podcast where they absolutely hammer leaders on issues like doing one-on-ones (this problem often goes right up to CEO), running meetings well, etc. With any luck management will pick up on it and change while you're still there, but if not--these people will probably be managing other people for the rest of their lives so someone somewhere will probably be grateful.
Make sure that if a lot of other people are starting to leave, that you're not last out the door. What usually happens in that case is that everyone else gets pushed to "make up for those that left". Deadlines don't change, but with fewer people, that just means longer hours with no bump in pay.
One on ones are one of those things which don't terminate with satisfaction from both sides. They are necessary but they are unfair. (necessary because of imperfect information).
This lack of resolution stems from the power dynamics. The one on ones don't go through a drone (powerless) proxy. They are lower level employee to higher level manager, if not manager, influencer, lead, etc., not someone equal or on a lower rung, so they are inherently asymmetric therefore most employees always (if they care) have to wear a mask and couch things and pretend.
On the other hand employees should be flexible enough that things should not become problematic. For the most part people working together should be able to resolve internal team issues. If something needs external influence bring it up for resolution using the channels available.
To add, the employee for the most part has to subvert themselves to the manager's style else risk being interpreted incorrectly. To be redundant, one on ones are useful, if the constraints are understood, till trouble arises at which point one on ones become useless vehicles for resolution.
I've been on both sides of the 1-on-1; was a manager for a while, decided to go back to focusing on the technology. I've only observed the power dynamic you describe with managers who actually care about power over their subordinates--and in that case, you've got a much bigger problem than a 1-on-1 meeting!
Done right, these meetings are simply an honest conversation. When wearing my manager hat, I've had employees freely express frustration with company decisions, say our strategy is stupid, etc., and those were all very important discussions for both me and the employee. That stuff shouldn't be buried; it'll boil over if not dealt with.
If you can't have an honest conversation with your manager, there's something really broken. I don't know your circumstance, of course, and maybe you just work for a power-hungry (bad) manager. But maybe they want that honest conversation and your relationship will greatly benefit from opening that line of communication.
EDIT: another tool for defusing the superior/subordinate awkwardness is to change the location of the meeting. Most 1-on-1 meetings (in my experience) happen in the manager's office, which immediately puts the employee on the defensive. Suggest moving the meeting off-site, e.g. to a local coffee shop. That does a lot to reduce subconscious power dynamics--it's just two people talking over coffee.
If the manager-employee relationship is not good, 1:1's do have the problems you described. But the cool thing is that 1:1's can also improve relationships and build trust, which actually resolves those problems over time.
This doesn't work if you don't have some amount of trust to begin with. But I've found that over time 1:1's build trust and open communications because the frequent, consistent, small conversations help both parties learn about each other and work through issues together.
I do 1:1's as a manager with my employees and also as an employee with my manager, so I've seen this from both sides for the past 5-6 years. I am confident that our 1:1's have been the single biggest factor in the great relationships and high trust that we all have now.
I think the power dynamic is variable based on management style. At my last company where I had anywhere between 8 and 12 FTE direct reports at a given time, I found them to be invaluable in keeping up to date with them as a person and as an employee.
The company was a marketing agency, and as such it was not likely that any more than a pair of developers would be on the same project and I would only rarely be involved with most of their projects at a day to day level that would let me more naturally keep in touch.
The ground rules for the one on one were simple:
- We can have them as often as you like, but we'll have at least one a month. I had some people I met with weekly, and some monthly, most were at two weeks.
- The meeting is scheduled for 30 minutes, but I've booked the room and my time for a full hour so that we don't have to abruptly cut short our conversation.
- I'll get the conversation started with the general "how are things" lead off, but the session is mostly lead by my employee. There is no topic off limits.
Most one on ones followed the same path. We'd get caught up on current project work which would lead to them asking me some technical questions they are currently encountering. If they were having some issues with their project manager they'd ask for some guidance in how best to deal with them, or ask me to provide some shielding. If we had an all company meeting and were implementing some changes we'd spend some time discussing those. Finally, we'd spend the last part of our conversation discussing some new tech or tools that we've stumbled upon that we think are pretty cool.
The only deviation from this flow would be is if the employee was having some performance problems that we were trying to correct. I would lay this out at the beginning and let the conversation go from there.
I feel like these meetings were very empowering to my team, and the best way I could show my commitment to them. If our meeting ended with me having to do something (intervene with a PM, follow up in some fashion to get more info, some random task I needed to perform, etc.) I made it a priority to start the process as soon as the meeting was over and to see it through to completion. I kept a Trello board of every action item originating from our one on ones and made sure I checked in with it every morning to follow up on anything that was not yet completed.
I feel like because of my candidness and open communication style coupled with the personal guarantee that promises made in one on ones were ALWAYS followed through to their completion, my employees were very candid in our one on ones. If they thought some policy was stupid they said it. I told each on of them, if they were just having a bad day, they could use the meeting as a gripe fest, and sometimes they did.
I loved my one-on-one calls, and I'm someone who really hates phone calls & meetings.
For me it was 30 minutes each week where I could bounce ideas about work, my own side projects, life in general, and chat about their work / projects / life too. It was like two friends with a mutual interest in business having a catchup & occasional rant & a laugh. It was fun & left me energized & motivated - hopefully they felt the same.
Perhaps one difference is that I was working remote. In the article, they also say "We’re a remote team [...] and we don’t spend all day with each other." If I was on-site & seeing people every day, I probably wouldn't want a 1-on-1 each week either. A 1-on-1 in a manager's office sounds awful. If it must be in person then you should go to a cafe, get a burger or a bubble tea, make it enjoyable!
If you feel the conversations have to be politically correct, that it's all about "professional development" (eww), or you sense asymmetric power dynamics... maybe that's a red flag that it's not a job you want to stay in or people you want to work with. It shouldn't feel like that. Life is too short to put up with office politics.
I've had really good bosses, but every time a one-on-one comes up, I get nervous. I've been laid off in one-on-one meetings in the past. I've also had to make split decisions without properly evalutating it, like tell my manager who to lay off, before.
I'm also not perfect, so every time one of those meetings comes up I start wondering if something I did that wasn't perfect is going to come up and I'm about to get a stern talking to, even though more often than not the one-on-ones go well.
If I really had a problem that I wanted a resolution on, I'd knock on my managers door and talk to him when I was ready to talk to him about it. I usually don't bring those things up in one-on-ones, so they haven't been terribly useful to me.
So generally, I get really nervous before the meeting, and relax again afterwards. I don't know if I'd get rid of them entirely, but I wish they were less frequent.
If they're a normally scheduled meeting it seems odd that you would be so anxious about them. I could totally see the anxiety if they weren't part of a routine, where if one suddenly popped up you'd be wondering what it could mean.
But if you always had a meeting on the books every week or couple of weeks, it would seem like it would just be a normal run of the mill check in. Then again, if you weren't working with your boss that frequently or your one on ones were generally most of the relationship you had with them, I could see how they'd cause anxiety.
Hopefully you are able to find a cadence with them, or a boss, that eases the anxiety and provides you with connection and value.
One on ones can also screw over employees if they say the wrong thing. Ever notice how management usually wants regular one on ones, but employees don't? They damage the quality of life for the employee because they must have a risky conversation every two weeks. Reputations can take months or years to create, but only minutes to destroy. Many engineers just want to get work done instead of having politically correct conversations to prevent the loss of future bonuses or promotions.
I may be in the minority here, but I love 1x1's both as a manager AND employee.
1) I think fast, direct, and consistently timed feedback is crucial to developing myself professionally. Rather than waiting until the semi-annual performance review where everything can come at once and possibly surprise me (either in a good way or bad,) I'd rather have regular measurements and course corrections as necessary.
2) I also really appreciate 1x1's with mentors to learn about how to get to the next level and/or understand broader context with an outside perspective vs. my direct manager or reports.
3) I can understand your point on saying the "wrong thing" -- certain cultures might be a bit more politically charged than others. I try to find mentors or other "work friends" that allow me to have free-roam discussions without concerns of judgement. Some might say this should be your significant other / non-work friends, but I think someone with context of your company/industry would provide better feedback and challenge you a bit -- rather than just provide positive validation that what you're saying is always right.
Employees often don't want regular 1:1s because their managers suck, not because 1:1s aren't a useful instrument. Even if you consider the primary role of managers (per another active thread today) to be clearing obstacles and empowering doers to get things done, that by itself is an excellent justification for regular, personal meetings.
I'm sorry you feel the way you do. You must have been burned in the past, or known people who were. That's too bad, and I hope you voted with your feet and found a better manager to work with.
I can only speak from and engineers view but my hope is that I have a good enough relationship with my manager that we can have an open dialogue. You should also have pretty wide berth in what you can say, even if the complaints or comments are unjustified, sometimes people need to vent.
If I was scared to vent to my manager I would be looking for a new job.
I disagree but I don't feel like you deserve to be downvoted for having an opinion that's based off your own experience and also sympathize with you for not having had a chance to work with a manager you feel you can trust.
As an employee, I will say I actually really enjoy one on ones! In fact I think I enjoy them much more than my manager does. I feel like it's a time when I, even as a low level employee, can let the manager know about things that he/she isn't able to see because he/she isn't in the trenches anymore.
Frankly I'm very lucky because I really like my manager; he's the main reason I joined this company. I feel like if I have personal issues that may interfere with work I can talk to him and he'd understand.
Personally I find getting and providing direct feedback is much better than constantly living in fear you're doing something wrong. Plus, sometimes having one on ones can be motivating when your manager tells you about how someone else in the company appreciated your work.
I'm disappointed that you're getting downvoted because I think you're touching on something really important, which is that 1:1s, like everything else in corporate life, have an inherently heavy atmosphere to them. The fact that you're cognizant of this shows that you have some experience under your belt. A good manager will do what he can to ease the situation, but the arrangement of the meeting is substantial and can certainly be risky.
However, while recognizing some flaws that are basically inherent in contemporary corporate structure, I believe 1:1s are extremely important. I think one of the single biggest problems organizations have is that they don't regularly check-in and explicitly solicit feedback. You get so much valuable intelligence this way, even if you're aware of the atmosphere and the incentives that loom over these meetings. The isolation and lack of data really hurt managerial efforts.
This is compounded as you go up the chain. I think that upper management should perform 1:1s all the way down every 3-6 months. This is basically checking middle management's work, something which rarely happens, and it provides the essential pieces of data that get obscured as information travels up the ladder.
One reason employees don't want these conversations is that they have a shitty manager.
But it can also be that they're a shitty employee. The chance of "saying the wrong thing" is much bigger if you are in fact the wrong person for the job and/or team.
i'd play along, but i wouldn't provide more information than is absolutely necessary to someone who, by definition of their role and mine, does not have my best interests in mind.
A one on one shouldn't require playing along or a good poker face. Granted, you're the best judge of the type of manager that you're dealing with, but if they're any decent kind of person you should be able to ask them for help or guidance and bring up issues you're encountering.
Now, it's true that they may get a sour impression if every meeting is you complaining about this, that, or the other- but this really should be your chance to alert the right person to issues that could be affecting more than just yourself, but the entire team.
Your boss may genuinely have no idea of the problems you're facing until you tell them. If you never tell them, you'll have no idea if they could've helped or not, and you may just wind up burned out and leaving the company. Conversely, they may be able to go out and alleviate whatever the issue was and show how much you mean to them or the company.
I would also be stressed about giving my superiors tons of reasons (real or imagined) to take me out behind the wood shed and put a (metaphorical) bullet in my head.
Having to resell yourself and your work on the regular has go to be stressful.
The best places I've worked had 1-on-1 meetings that were only rarely useful, and no daily standups, no scrum, and weekly team meetings where people mostly were trying to stay awake.
Those also happened the most productive places I've worked, by far, because we had a ton of on-the-ground collaboration. We were all on the same floor, and we talked all day, looked at each other's code, worked hard, and had fun.
The 1-on-1s were a distraction. Every once in a while it was useful, but it could have easily been a monthly thing.
1-on-1s are something where it doesn't seem necessary if you don't need it at the moment, but if you do, it's very useful. If everything is going great for you and you have no real issues, then a 1-on-1 meeting with your manager is going to seem like a waste of time. If you have an issue, however, which you don't want to discuss with your group at large, a 1-on-1 is essential. You might think employees should just request a meeting with the manager if this happens, but having a regular 1-1 meeting frequently helps get employees to discuss things they otherwise wouldn't volunteer. Most people don't want to be the one making waves and rocking the boat, but the 1-1 gives them that forum to do so since they're not bothering the manager (the manager is required to spend his time in the 1-1 meeting anyway, so you're not cramping his schedule to talk about your concern). They're not perfect; employees still may be reluctant to bring things up, but a good manager can deal with that.
Before you become honest, make sure you understand the politics of your team. I worked with a 40 something obese, single, just plain miserable neckbeard who got off on hazing new employees. I mentioned this in the one on one to our manager and the day after, both manager and neckbeard conspired to make my life hell. And they won, I resigned.
And when hiring, it's important to avoid hiring folks who think it's appropriate to recount a problem by saying the other person was old, fat, single, and a "miserable neckbeard" before they mention a single word about the problem.
That's poisonous behavior, and if you let that sort of cancer into your company, you won't get it out. Attacking behaviors is great, attacking people is garbage.
Yup, there's an art to it. You have to make sure your manager is actually on your side first. Good managers are, bad managers pay lip service to the idea. In between there are many well intentioned managers who haven't figured out the skill of encouraging openness.
This seems so obvious, but then I was surprised when I inherited a team that this wasn't happening on.
As companies grow, they need to provide regular cadences for communicating. Some of it is group meetings or emails. Some of it is one on one. This is especially true for coaching.
[+] [-] jdcarter|10 years ago|reply
Agile methodologies/slack channels/etc. are simply not a replacement for people management. In many companies, the people manager and project manager are the same person, and they generally default to managing the project first. (Squeaky wheel gets the grease, right? And what's squeakier than an executive breathing down your neck?) But when your culture starts dissolving and employees start leaving... well by then it might be too late to get interested in people management.
In my group, morale is a big issue, and retention is about to become one--I know of several people with one foot out the door already. I'm not sure management is even aware.
[+] [-] manyxcxi|10 years ago|reply
You're totally correct. I run our Scrum stand-up and I set the timer for 15 minutes- at 15 minutes I used to literally shut down the conference bridge and we're done. I did this to get us in the habit that we needed our morning stand up to be formal, precise, and expedient. We needed to get in the habit of quickly realizing that something needed to be shelved and that the necessary people would follow up with each other later to get into the weeds. I don't hang up any more, and sometimes we go a tad over 15 minutes, but we've gotten our standup to become a well oiled, no bullshit machine.
I feel like this is the complete opposite of a one on one. They should be a meandering, personal, meaningful conversation of depth. They should feel unrushed and the employee should feel that they are listened to.
It could be a sign that your company feels that way about employees that a Scrum standup is a replacement for one on ones, ie: they don't give a shit. More realistically, they probably just don't get that there's no room for the meaningful relationship building that a one on one meeting confers from a time boxed group standup.
[+] [-] themodelplumber|10 years ago|reply
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[+] [-] mc32|10 years ago|reply
This lack of resolution stems from the power dynamics. The one on ones don't go through a drone (powerless) proxy. They are lower level employee to higher level manager, if not manager, influencer, lead, etc., not someone equal or on a lower rung, so they are inherently asymmetric therefore most employees always (if they care) have to wear a mask and couch things and pretend.
On the other hand employees should be flexible enough that things should not become problematic. For the most part people working together should be able to resolve internal team issues. If something needs external influence bring it up for resolution using the channels available.
To add, the employee for the most part has to subvert themselves to the manager's style else risk being interpreted incorrectly. To be redundant, one on ones are useful, if the constraints are understood, till trouble arises at which point one on ones become useless vehicles for resolution.
[+] [-] jdcarter|10 years ago|reply
Done right, these meetings are simply an honest conversation. When wearing my manager hat, I've had employees freely express frustration with company decisions, say our strategy is stupid, etc., and those were all very important discussions for both me and the employee. That stuff shouldn't be buried; it'll boil over if not dealt with.
If you can't have an honest conversation with your manager, there's something really broken. I don't know your circumstance, of course, and maybe you just work for a power-hungry (bad) manager. But maybe they want that honest conversation and your relationship will greatly benefit from opening that line of communication.
EDIT: another tool for defusing the superior/subordinate awkwardness is to change the location of the meeting. Most 1-on-1 meetings (in my experience) happen in the manager's office, which immediately puts the employee on the defensive. Suggest moving the meeting off-site, e.g. to a local coffee shop. That does a lot to reduce subconscious power dynamics--it's just two people talking over coffee.
[+] [-] joshyeager|10 years ago|reply
This doesn't work if you don't have some amount of trust to begin with. But I've found that over time 1:1's build trust and open communications because the frequent, consistent, small conversations help both parties learn about each other and work through issues together.
I do 1:1's as a manager with my employees and also as an employee with my manager, so I've seen this from both sides for the past 5-6 years. I am confident that our 1:1's have been the single biggest factor in the great relationships and high trust that we all have now.
[+] [-] manyxcxi|10 years ago|reply
The company was a marketing agency, and as such it was not likely that any more than a pair of developers would be on the same project and I would only rarely be involved with most of their projects at a day to day level that would let me more naturally keep in touch.
The ground rules for the one on one were simple:
- We can have them as often as you like, but we'll have at least one a month. I had some people I met with weekly, and some monthly, most were at two weeks.
- The meeting is scheduled for 30 minutes, but I've booked the room and my time for a full hour so that we don't have to abruptly cut short our conversation.
- I'll get the conversation started with the general "how are things" lead off, but the session is mostly lead by my employee. There is no topic off limits.
Most one on ones followed the same path. We'd get caught up on current project work which would lead to them asking me some technical questions they are currently encountering. If they were having some issues with their project manager they'd ask for some guidance in how best to deal with them, or ask me to provide some shielding. If we had an all company meeting and were implementing some changes we'd spend some time discussing those. Finally, we'd spend the last part of our conversation discussing some new tech or tools that we've stumbled upon that we think are pretty cool.
The only deviation from this flow would be is if the employee was having some performance problems that we were trying to correct. I would lay this out at the beginning and let the conversation go from there.
I feel like these meetings were very empowering to my team, and the best way I could show my commitment to them. If our meeting ended with me having to do something (intervene with a PM, follow up in some fashion to get more info, some random task I needed to perform, etc.) I made it a priority to start the process as soon as the meeting was over and to see it through to completion. I kept a Trello board of every action item originating from our one on ones and made sure I checked in with it every morning to follow up on anything that was not yet completed.
I feel like because of my candidness and open communication style coupled with the personal guarantee that promises made in one on ones were ALWAYS followed through to their completion, my employees were very candid in our one on ones. If they thought some policy was stupid they said it. I told each on of them, if they were just having a bad day, they could use the meeting as a gripe fest, and sometimes they did.
[+] [-] SyneRyder|10 years ago|reply
For me it was 30 minutes each week where I could bounce ideas about work, my own side projects, life in general, and chat about their work / projects / life too. It was like two friends with a mutual interest in business having a catchup & occasional rant & a laugh. It was fun & left me energized & motivated - hopefully they felt the same.
Perhaps one difference is that I was working remote. In the article, they also say "We’re a remote team [...] and we don’t spend all day with each other." If I was on-site & seeing people every day, I probably wouldn't want a 1-on-1 each week either. A 1-on-1 in a manager's office sounds awful. If it must be in person then you should go to a cafe, get a burger or a bubble tea, make it enjoyable!
If you feel the conversations have to be politically correct, that it's all about "professional development" (eww), or you sense asymmetric power dynamics... maybe that's a red flag that it's not a job you want to stay in or people you want to work with. It shouldn't feel like that. Life is too short to put up with office politics.
[+] [-] cableshaft|10 years ago|reply
I'm also not perfect, so every time one of those meetings comes up I start wondering if something I did that wasn't perfect is going to come up and I'm about to get a stern talking to, even though more often than not the one-on-ones go well.
If I really had a problem that I wanted a resolution on, I'd knock on my managers door and talk to him when I was ready to talk to him about it. I usually don't bring those things up in one-on-ones, so they haven't been terribly useful to me.
So generally, I get really nervous before the meeting, and relax again afterwards. I don't know if I'd get rid of them entirely, but I wish they were less frequent.
[+] [-] manyxcxi|10 years ago|reply
But if you always had a meeting on the books every week or couple of weeks, it would seem like it would just be a normal run of the mill check in. Then again, if you weren't working with your boss that frequently or your one on ones were generally most of the relationship you had with them, I could see how they'd cause anxiety.
Hopefully you are able to find a cadence with them, or a boss, that eases the anxiety and provides you with connection and value.
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[+] [-] s3r3nity|10 years ago|reply
1) I think fast, direct, and consistently timed feedback is crucial to developing myself professionally. Rather than waiting until the semi-annual performance review where everything can come at once and possibly surprise me (either in a good way or bad,) I'd rather have regular measurements and course corrections as necessary.
2) I also really appreciate 1x1's with mentors to learn about how to get to the next level and/or understand broader context with an outside perspective vs. my direct manager or reports.
3) I can understand your point on saying the "wrong thing" -- certain cultures might be a bit more politically charged than others. I try to find mentors or other "work friends" that allow me to have free-roam discussions without concerns of judgement. Some might say this should be your significant other / non-work friends, but I think someone with context of your company/industry would provide better feedback and challenge you a bit -- rather than just provide positive validation that what you're saying is always right.
[+] [-] eitally|10 years ago|reply
I'm sorry you feel the way you do. You must have been burned in the past, or known people who were. That's too bad, and I hope you voted with your feet and found a better manager to work with.
[+] [-] infecto|10 years ago|reply
If I was scared to vent to my manager I would be looking for a new job.
[+] [-] rifung|10 years ago|reply
As an employee, I will say I actually really enjoy one on ones! In fact I think I enjoy them much more than my manager does. I feel like it's a time when I, even as a low level employee, can let the manager know about things that he/she isn't able to see because he/she isn't in the trenches anymore.
Frankly I'm very lucky because I really like my manager; he's the main reason I joined this company. I feel like if I have personal issues that may interfere with work I can talk to him and he'd understand.
Personally I find getting and providing direct feedback is much better than constantly living in fear you're doing something wrong. Plus, sometimes having one on ones can be motivating when your manager tells you about how someone else in the company appreciated your work.
[+] [-] cookiecaper|10 years ago|reply
However, while recognizing some flaws that are basically inherent in contemporary corporate structure, I believe 1:1s are extremely important. I think one of the single biggest problems organizations have is that they don't regularly check-in and explicitly solicit feedback. You get so much valuable intelligence this way, even if you're aware of the atmosphere and the incentives that loom over these meetings. The isolation and lack of data really hurt managerial efforts.
This is compounded as you go up the chain. I think that upper management should perform 1:1s all the way down every 3-6 months. This is basically checking middle management's work, something which rarely happens, and it provides the essential pieces of data that get obscured as information travels up the ladder.
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[+] [-] BurningFrog|10 years ago|reply
But it can also be that they're a shitty employee. The chance of "saying the wrong thing" is much bigger if you are in fact the wrong person for the job and/or team.
[+] [-] sportanova|10 years ago|reply
I'm worried that 1-1s are becoming the next Agile - just another process used to increase control under the guise of empowerment
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[+] [-] manyxcxi|10 years ago|reply
Now, it's true that they may get a sour impression if every meeting is you complaining about this, that, or the other- but this really should be your chance to alert the right person to issues that could be affecting more than just yourself, but the entire team.
Your boss may genuinely have no idea of the problems you're facing until you tell them. If you never tell them, you'll have no idea if they could've helped or not, and you may just wind up burned out and leaving the company. Conversely, they may be able to go out and alleviate whatever the issue was and show how much you mean to them or the company.
[+] [-] twoquestions|10 years ago|reply
Having to resell yourself and your work on the regular has go to be stressful.
[+] [-] kzhahou|10 years ago|reply
Those also happened the most productive places I've worked, by far, because we had a ton of on-the-ground collaboration. We were all on the same floor, and we talked all day, looked at each other's code, worked hard, and had fun.
The 1-on-1s were a distraction. Every once in a while it was useful, but it could have easily been a monthly thing.
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[+] [-] peekajew|10 years ago|reply
That's poisonous behavior, and if you let that sort of cancer into your company, you won't get it out. Attacking behaviors is great, attacking people is garbage.
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[+] [-] mathattack|10 years ago|reply
As companies grow, they need to provide regular cadences for communicating. Some of it is group meetings or emails. Some of it is one on one. This is especially true for coaching.