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Not lying when I say this and I quote a certain wife who I know "... I wish he was drinking, or bad to me or the kids. It would makes things much easier ..."

This is in a situation where she is absolutely not fit for family life and is the one who is unprepared for realities of being a mom and a wife. Literally, this is a person who has not grown up yet and constantly looks for comfort without being able to show it to her family.

I honestly can say that folks get into marriages more by happenstance than solid planning. Maybe I'm wrong. Who knows.