[startling]

I get anxious about this too sometimes, but in my experience the "long lists of conditions that no one ever told me and assumed I knew" are hardly ever relevant.

[Mz]

I don't get anxious. I get tired of doing what people told me would work and having it go really badly.

[knownothing]

Complaining about freely volunteered advice people give you in a friendly and helpful spirit is a good way to avoid getting it.