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cantbecool | 8 years ago

I don't understand why you're being down voted. Most women can't handle adversity, especially if she doesn't work and relies on your income. Two relationships ended due to me losing my job and essentially coming clean saying I was depressed. In hindsight, they lost respect for me. People say you aren't your job, but psychologically it really is.

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dang|8 years ago

> Most women can't handle adversity

If you post anything like this to HN again, we will ban you.

Programmatic|8 years ago

I think you could make your point without saying that "Most women can't handle adversity", which seems to be a dubious claim arising from extrapolation from your particular situation.

Assuming that your partners were fair-weather partners and that there aren't more layers to the situation, would you really want a partner around who wouldn't support you at your darkest? It seems coming clean has two incentives: you gain the support of someone close to you or you lose the facade of someone who doesn't seem care for you in particular (if I understood your situation correctly).

gnaritas|8 years ago

> Most women can't handle adversity

Hmm... massively sexist comment, and not remotely true. Two relationships is not a valid sample size to make judgements about "most women" and likely your hindsight is a bit flawed given your ideas about women.