[cderwin]

Sure, that makes sense in the short term. But if everyone did this, over a long period of time, two things would happen:

(a) Diversity programs would at some point stop being ineffective.

and

(b) Identity politics would achieve cultural hegemony.

I agree that it would be wise to shut up if doing so had no long term effects (as in your example of a manager asking about religion), but that clearly isn't the case here. And in the case of (b), I would say that long-term effect is extremely undesirable, for both businesses and individuals.

[wisty]

> Diversity programs would at some point stop being ineffective.

I seriously doubt this will happen unless people criticize the failings of diversity programs, and diversity officer take this criticism seriously.