[joshaidan]

Stop blaming my feelings on other people. Always take ownership of how you feel; I'm responsible for my feelings.

For example, if I feel lonely because my friends didn't invite me to the party, don't blame them. Loneliness is my feeling, so I should do something about it. i.e. Go out and do something that I like, invite some other friends over, whatever... If I don't take any action, blaming other people for my feelings won't change how I feel.

[sprremix]

Amen to that. I still have that reflex of "blaming" others (thinking something happens because THEY believe something instead of what I am doing) and I really have to step back from the situation and think about it. Absolutely hate it when my brain does this

[forgueam]

This sounds very similar to the ideas in stoicism. Your feelings are your own creation and subsequently completely within your control. If you are feeling bad about something, it's not because of that something, but because you are -choosing- to feel bad.