[throwaway713824]

I met my wife on a dating website (plenty of fish). This is not an indicator that dating sites are effective, they had failed me for at least 10 years previously (ie I tried online dating off and on for 10 years with no success). So dating sites hadn't changed, but I had changed. Younger me wouldn't have messaged the woman who became my wife. Over time I had learned what my "must haves": job/career, independence, intelligence, compatible sense of humor.

How did I know? I have a farting problem at times, and I crop dusted a store we were in, then she did the same thing. We laughed and laughed.