[jabv]

One way of thinking about EQ includes self-awareness and self-management as components of your overall EQ (which may also include understanding others, for example).

So, being aware of this is good. Being aware that you are causing the issues you face is great.

However, you seem to have the attitude (from this limited sample) that this is a concrete fact of life (that's my understanding from your post).

If you're aware that some aspect of your "over friendly nature" takes away from your ability to lead your team effectively, and you don't adjust, you're not practicing sound self-management, which is an important aspect of EQ (just like some folks need to be aware that they become angered easily and adjust accordingly).

My advice is to pretend like you came to yourself for advice with your current situation. Using your ability to understand others, what would you advise? What practices should change? You may find that this exercise will give you more "next steps" than will other folks taking stabs in the dark online.

A final thought is this. You care about your team being effective and satisfied with their leadership. Currently, you aren't providing what they need. You're actually not displaying excellent EQ in this way. How can you put aside your natural tendencies to offer your team what they need?