[Divver]

Meh I don’t judge others but I personally don’t want an arranged marriage I feel like in most cases it’s always focused around the man and not the woman so the woman ends up with a suboptimal match which I think is wrong.

It’s interesting (but not surprising) how people of the same race and religion can have very different cultures based on the region of the world they were born or grew up in.

Malaysians like my parents who are Indian genetically/ancestrally (been in Malaysia for multiple generations though) and Hindu by religion date in high school, Pre-marital sex is not uncommon and some speak openly about it just like here in the “West”, and usually get love marriages.

Same applies to Malaysian Chinese Buddhists and also to a much much lesser extent Malaysian Malay Muslims.

But in South Asia, Indian Hindus and Pakistani Muslims (not all of course) have this arranged marriage notion (Although I’ve been told it’s less common now) and dating in high school in very rare and I’m guessing Pre-marital sex is either very rare or you can’t talk about it openly because of social stigma.

Same race from a genetic point of view, same religion,

But different views of feminism, sexuality, and dating.

Not surprising of course.

As an American myself my views are mostly “Western” since I grew up here and I guess my parents were pretty progressive (at least on this issue my mom went against her parents to marry my dad).

The society in which you grow up in plays a large role in how you end up seeing the world and people around you.