[sheepmullet]

> positively correlated, especially loyalty

How does a string of short term relationships show loyalty?

> flexibility means (ability to adapt to change?

Yes and the willingness.

I’ve known plenty of early 20s women who will drop their careers to follow their boyfriend overseas and very few in their 30s who will.

> I can't understand how emotional maturity is of no value

Why should a man find it valuable in a partner?

[JimboOmega]

> How does a string of short term relationships show loyalty?

Age says nothing about what prior relationships someone has had, other than that they've had more time to have them.

It translates to loyalty (albeit weakly) in that a woman who is older has better self awareness and knows what she wants in a relationship, where a younger woman might still be figuring that out (and realize only later on that her relationship isn't what she wanted)

>I’ve known plenty of early 20s women who will drop their careers to follow their boyfriend overseas and very few in their 30s who will.

So it's more valuable to have a woman who isn't independent? Who doesn't have her own life or hobbies and gets fulfillment solely through her partner?

> Why should a man find it valuable in a partner?

Seriously? You don't know why emotional maturity is valuable in a partner?

[sheepmullet]

> It translates to loyalty (albeit weakly) in that a woman who is older has better self awareness and knows what she wants in a relationship, where a younger woman might still be figuring that out

Than why are there clear correlations (for women) between # of monogamous relationships and likelihood of divorce? As well as between # of sexual partners and likelihood of divorce?

> So it's more valuable to have a woman who isn't independent?

Of course! More flexibility and dependence up to a point is certainly better.

Of course the idea that this means a woman can’t have her own hobbies seems to be taking things to the extreme.

> Seriously?

Yes and honestly.

I married young and I think the troubles we went through together have deepened our relationship in a way that would never have been possible if we were both “emotionally mature”.

I’d also question whether people really do mature “globally” that much - vs maturing in specific contexts and relationships.

For example if women matured significantly in a “global” sense between mid-20s to mid-30s you would expect a big drop in obesity as women started taking better care of their health. But you don’t. Etc etc.