[sheepmullet]

> It translates to loyalty (albeit weakly) in that a woman who is older has better self awareness and knows what she wants in a relationship, where a younger woman might still be figuring that out

Than why are there clear correlations (for women) between # of monogamous relationships and likelihood of divorce? As well as between # of sexual partners and likelihood of divorce?

> So it's more valuable to have a woman who isn't independent?

Of course! More flexibility and dependence up to a point is certainly better.

Of course the idea that this means a woman can’t have her own hobbies seems to be taking things to the extreme.

> Seriously?

Yes and honestly.

I married young and I think the troubles we went through together have deepened our relationship in a way that would never have been possible if we were both “emotionally mature”.

I’d also question whether people really do mature “globally” that much - vs maturing in specific contexts and relationships.

For example if women matured significantly in a “global” sense between mid-20s to mid-30s you would expect a big drop in obesity as women started taking better care of their health. But you don’t. Etc etc.