[veryworried]

Many years ago when I was no longer happy with my job I began to quietly search for a new one. My current job paid well but I had hit a wall and felt I was not going to make any progress on my career if I stayed there. I ended up getting an excellent offer for a job across the country that even included relocation expenses. I was thrilled and ready to put in my two weeks notice and pack it all up except when I went to tell my wife about it she made it very clear she did not want to relocate anywhere, and any scenario that involves relocation will end in divorce.

[gscott]

This also happened to me. My wife didn't support our moving so we didn't move. I'm now 15 years later in the same stage of my career with little possiblity of upward movement and eventually divorced anyway for other reasons. Best to move on and up.

[iends]

Your wife didn’t know before you even interviewed?

[Pfhreak]

Your attitude seems astonishingly selfish.

The poster should have told their spouse before doing any interviewing that they were considering positions out of town. It's absolutely reasonable to say no when someone comes out of the blue with a request to move out of town. Understand all your constraints and have an open dialog with your spouse before you go interviewing.