[oposa]

I have found this to be distinctly not true. I don't know of many places were living a more modest life is a good choice. It seems like most people who says this have already benefited from cheaper education, real estate, their partner or career. In many countries average savings doesn't keep up with the increase in property values, especially not in attractive job markets. If you don't have wealth, or go into debt, you are falling behind. I really don't see it, maybe you have some example?

[CWuestefeld]

I think the kind of things you're talking about are more exceptions, and probably don't matter as much to a given family in the long run. For example, once I've managed to buy a house, that's a stake in the ground; it doesn't matter that property values continue to rise beyond that, since you've already got the housing you need.

But so many other things really are choices. I see lots of my colleagues replacing their new cars every 3 years; mine is five years old, having replaced the car I previously owned for 12 (and they were a Hyundai and Subaru, respectively, even if I could afford a Mercedes). Having cable TV with all the movie and sports channels is very much a decision that anyone can pass by. How often and where you eat out makes a big difference in expenses. Clothes, shoes, jewelry, furniture, matching stainless steel appliances with wifi, ... the list goes on and on.

[oposa]

Maybe a couple can survive changes in the housing and job market well enough that it they don’t mind the changes to their quality of life. But it very likely will be noticeable to their kids when other families have stronger finances and better access to housing and job markets. If you can’t save more than the difference to such markets what you get for the money is de facto less. It is sort of inflation by inequality. Then the theory doesn’t really hold and the frugality has just been to try and keep up.

I am all for frugality but in many places it hasn’t worked out in the last 10 years because you haven’t had the same access to growth. Unless you already had assets in the first place.

[kgwgk]

An example of what? If you are getting by with an income of $X and you get a raise of $Y you have the choice to keep your spending at $X and save the additional $Y.