[tomlock]

Toxic masculinity refers to traditional cultural masculine norms that can be harmful to men, women, and society overall; this concept of toxic masculinity is not intended to demonize men or male attributes, but rather to emphasize the harmful effects of conformity to certain traditional masculine ideal behaviors such as dominance, self-reliance, and competition.

Wikipedia

[brigandish]

And the example of masculinity that is not toxic is…?

[tomlock]

The behaviour I mentioned above, which runs counter to the "self-reliance" mentioned in an example in the definition.