[jungletek]

Looking at the downvoted but not commented-upon comments in this thread, and specifically the content of those comments, I'd speculate that certain people find the assertions therein either too challenging to their own beliefs, or somehow offensive, but not enough to actually challenge them with a comment.

Seems like if you say the wrong thing about theocracy, or have sane and body-positive sex advice, you're bound to get some silent judgement from people who aren't brave enough to actually call you out, lest they have to actually defend their beliefs that cause them some degree of cognitive dissonance. It's likely easier for them to not question why they think the way they do, and if it's the right way for them to think/react/etc. at all, so those beliefs and assumptions go unchallenged.

Obviously this is all speculation and assumption, but if someone won't engage with you to explain themselves, that's all one can really do, for better or worse.

[tropo]

Normally there isn't much point arguing about it. We all know. Why argue?

I'll make an exception for you though, since you may have a misunderstanding. You mention "theocracy". Atheists can believe that sex should wait for marriage. No religion is required to hold that belief. It's the same with "body-positive". Abstinence until marriage doesn't mean hating bodies or sex, and it doesn't mean being ashamed of either.

All it takes is a preference for low-risk orderly lives without all the tragedy that sex-related mistakes can bring. Since behavior affects others, including sex partners and offspring, there is a duty to avoid giving them an increased risk of tragedy. Breaking hearts isn't nice at all, and that gets far worse when sex is involved. People usually consider the first time to be special, and it would be best to share that memory with a spouse. It's awful to think that a person would be longing for a previous partner; having a comparison could weaken the current relationship. Moving from one partner to another, repeatedly breaking the emotional bond, weakens the bond that can form.