[cotelletta]

The more you do the more they will rely on you. But this is on contributors too.

They start out hanging out in their clubhouse, working on their hobby, and people join in. Then a few years pass and you realize your chat is now a support channel for people who do not care and don't wish to care. Tough luck. Maybe it was never about building software after all, and more about learning, socializing, being valued, and pride.

That said, this part:

>the offer of the fellowship stipend for being a trans person in tech

It sounds like this person has made ample contributions, but they get a fellowship because they're queer. And they're happy with that? Okay. Personally I'd feel insulted.