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camcaine | 6 years ago

Parent of 3 under 5 here. My personal view – This would only add more pressure to children and parents. Whatever happened to trusting your own instincts? Perhaps as children all grow and develop in such different ways and rates in the early years the best solution is not to try and 'fix' children via experts.

Many parents might be crying out for this kind of service, but I certainly would not be one of them. Hope that helps.

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pnathan|6 years ago

> Whatever happened to trusting your own instincts?

n.b., these instincts are absent in humans in general. what you refer to as instincts are what you were inculcated with through your prior life. Not everything you were inculcated with is de facto healthy. Case in point: one elderly gentleman I spoke with said that his instinct for proper child training is to take a stick and hit a child when they disobey, until the child obeys. He regrets the current society disallowing it.

zoomablemind|6 years ago

I wonder too, whether this is a service to help parents to stay sane or is it to help children overcome development hurdles?

Both of these ends are somewhat irrational, with no one right solution. Especially so when it's a health issue, or living environment problem. Health calls for pediatrician attention.

There're already well established meeting point web sites for parents, like whattoexpect.com and similar. Which pretty much sooth parent's worries and give a variety of community-advices. As often as "it's a stage to grow over". And, in personal experience, we parents grow over it together with the kids.

Personally, I see benefit in a variety of resources vs. one central, no matter how expert, point. But I could understand busy parents' desire to source this from a single "curated" and customized place.

eba7keb|6 years ago

I absolutely appreciate this perspective! And, in fact, I agree with you. The aim isn't to diagnose kids or "fix" anything. And we certainly don't want parents to feel like this ads pressure. We want to take the pressure off. A survey from Zero to three shows that nearly half (48%) of parents nationwide report the they do not have the support they need. This is a serious challenge, and also an opportunity. We absolutely want parents to trust their instincts - which is why we don't tell them what to do, we work WITH with them to provide them access to support to tackle challenges that often arise for parents. We recognize not all parents need more support of have any challenges, and that is great too!

camcaine|6 years ago

Always be challenges.