[jptoor]

1. If a BLM post is all it took to "lose a friend," I'd reconsider your definition.

2. Not everything is about you. Your friends explicitly were not thinking about you when they picked a side.

3. You won't be convinced, but someone else may benefit from a tool I've used to get past this. Would you hold the same beliefs if you were born black in an inner city? Would you want the status quo in terms of police strategies? To be scared for your life at every traffic stop? It's easy to defend a stance from a position of privilege (directly opposed to "my safety".)

You can do the same for your friends with different political beliefs - most stances are based on someone's life experiences or environment. There's likely a reason they believe something, and it has nothing to do with you. If you grew up in their situation, or friends, or life experiences, do you think you'd still hold your same beliefs? Most of the time the answer for me is no, and therefore the beliefs have nothing to do with the person's character.

[pieterk]

Of course would a facebook post not change OP's mind. Other cultures can also have different definitions of friendship. They might even call American friends, flakes.

What is the definition of friend, if yours don't think of you when deciding to reallocate a quarter billion dollars?

I think there are no sides to this conflict. The system is in conflict with itself, and we're barely able to control it at this point.