[bjl]

Because the men that are willing to put in the effort are still having sex. Its not hard for a man to become attractive: eat right, exercise often, groom regularly, dress well, develop a compelling personality, cultivate relationships with interesting people. The fact that people who don't even try aren't able to have sex doesn't seem surprising (or bad).

[ravitation]

You comically underestimate how hard those things are for many men, especially those that are economically disadvantaged. I don't agree with many of the takes in these comments, but your simplification to "just work harder" isn't any better.

[bjl]

Economics doesn't have anything to do with these.

- Eat Right - actually cheaper than eating unhealthy

- Exercise Often - possible to do free

- Groom regularly - very cheap, the cost of a haircut every couple of months

- Develop a personality - free

- Cultivate relationships - free

[quasarj]

> Its not hard for a man to become attractive

Proceeds to list the most difficult things in life.

[bjl]

None of the things listed are difficult at all. They take willpower and time, of course, but they aren't rocket science.

[88840-8855]

Its not hard for a man to become attractive: just grow a little and be over 6ft.

/discussion

[SwiftyBug]

That does not sound like "not hard".

[mD5pPxMcS6fVWKE]

You forgot: those bastards don't even try to become taller.

[DreamScatter]

Some people like me just aren't interested in maintaining superficial friendships and social circles just to find a partner. I am plenty interesting without a social circle, and would rather have a relationship only with my partner and nobody else in it. This makes it more difficult. Socialization is for children, in my opinion, and I only want social interactions with a partner and not with a group of people (like i did as a kid).

[karlakush]

> develop a compelling personality

Hah, I love how you slipped this in right next to buying new clothes. Developing a compelling personality is not trivial. In fact, most people go their entire lives with developing a compelling personality. Might as well tell guys they just need to grow a little taller.