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The key is to decouple your inner self from how you present to the world. Your inner mental model of the world can acknowledge all apparent truths, even if some of them might upset various factions (the legitimacy of which varies; the offensiveness of sensitive topics to particular people is a real thing, but it also sometimes gets invoked inauthentically), without necessarily saying all of them. At the same time, if you're chronically contradicting everyone else you should still see that as a prompt for deeper examination of your beliefs.

It's always been a fantasy that the whole of society could accept all corners of a person's thoughts and feelings, as-is, laid bare. Before the internet, we could pretend the fantasy was true because of our mostly-local social spheres. But now the veil has been removed completely.

This isn't to say you should never vocalize controversial beliefs. But you should pick your battles. Ask yourself whether it really matters to society that X gets discussed - and that it's therefore worth risking offense and/or backlash - or whether you're just being pedantic.

I really liked this quote as a broader description of political correctness:

> Perhaps the solution is to appeal to politeness. If someone says they can hear a high-pitched noise that you can't, it's only polite to take them at their word, instead of demanding evidence that's impossible to produce, or simply denying that they hear anything. Imagine how rude that would seem.