[yalestar]

That is indeed a super-skill! If you remove as much of the perceived power imbalance between interviewer and interviewee (often difficult, to be sure), and you can engage in a two-way conversation with them about the experiences on their resume, then you'll get a far better picture of how they'll be as a team member.

A candidate's ability to do performative whiteboarding while 1-5 interviewers stare at them tells me very little. For a software engineering job, of course technical ability is important. But equally (and often more) important is the amount of friction they could potentially introduce to a well-functioning team. What I want to know more than anything is: "Can I stand working with this person?" "Is this person a dickhead code-reviewer?" "Will this person be able to adapt and overcome when presented with a novel or urgent task?"

The way to divine these answers is by trying to put the candidate at ease as much as possible. So many interviews, unfortunately, become a sort of gauntlet or inquisition.