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Half of US adults say dating has gotten harder in the last 10 years

50 points| bezmenov | 5 years ago |pewsocialtrends.org | reply

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[+] thhhhrowaway44|5 years ago|reply
This is pretty much coincidental with the rise of online dating. Who could have guessed that trusting the adtech industry with your love life was a bad idea?
[+] imtringued|5 years ago|reply
Why would online dating make offline dating harder? Unless you're young and in the LGB group most people find their partners offline.

I think the truth is that dating is considered optional nowadays, which makes it more competitive both offline and online. People have minimum standards and if they can't find someone that matches these standards they can always stay single.

I personally don't believe in online dating, because the business model just doesn't work for me. Most dating apps are built for singles and once you find a long term relationship you cease using the app. An online dating company can only make money off of casual dating and perpetual singles. A "real" dating app should still provide value years into a relationship, otherwise there will always be a conflict of interest.

[+] jmeister|5 years ago|reply
Yet another instance of blaming societal ills on tech, instead of the supposedly freedom/agency loving users.

Read Houellebecq or any dating advice forum, for arguments on how excess choice enabled by apps makes dating less egalitarian and ruins it for the “weaker” section.

[+] anotheryou|5 years ago|reply
Could they have all aged by 10 years?
[+] dkdk8283|5 years ago|reply
Side rant

Reducing sexual encounters to normalizing consent forms is pretty ridiculous. A few creeps ruined it for all of us

I am a man and if a woman asked me to sign something prior to sex I would leave

[+] ck425|5 years ago|reply
Sure signing forms might kill the vibe but the move towards enthusiastic consent and actually asking 'What do you want to do?' is great imo.
[+] chrisseaton|5 years ago|reply
Have half of US adults got experience dating now and ten years ago? Seems doubtful?
[+] jokz|5 years ago|reply
Online dating give the illusion of endless choice
[+] TheBillyMania|5 years ago|reply
Some men are joining the MGTOW movement. I’m sure that has some effect.
[+] burfog|5 years ago|reply
Half of US adults are women.

Men, after aging for the last 10 years: "No, it hasn't gotten harder."

Women, after aging for the last 10 years: "Yes, it has gotten harder."

[+] the_jeremy|5 years ago|reply
> single-and-looking men and women report equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date

The article is not long. Please don't make unfounded claims that are directly refuted by the article we're supposed to be discussing.

[+] tthrowaway4009|5 years ago|reply
This is a well-spread stereotype but is it backed up by reality? At the bare minimum I'd like to know about HN's personal experiences during their twenties and thirties.