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You can either get information from other people you trust and you think would give you accurate feedback or by trying to develop a clearer sense of how your own mind works via ego dissolution.

For the former, its probably ideal to pick someone you trust and respect, and try to be clear with them you want critical or constructive feedback.

For the latter, meditation, therapy, and Vedanta-style self-inquiry can all trigger more self-awareness and self-dissolution. As the amygdala shrinks and prefrontal cortex gets more activated, the fear-based, survival-oriented self erodes and you start to be able to see more clearly and objectively.