[zarp]

I found myself in a similar situation to yours... and then had a second child. If I had the time to track it, I'm sure the results would not be much better. After that much needed wake up call, what did you end up doing?

[redisman]

Lower your standards for everything. Work, cleanliness, relationships, hobbies.

Try to get to a point where you do housework while the kiddo is awake and entertaining themselves.

Some medium term planning helps. Cooking enough for 2-3 meals at a time so you don’t do it everyday. I used a meal plan that told me the groceries to get. Think of some other “life hacks” or corners you can cut for things you do a lot. Take some time for self care.

[treeman79]

I did less.

Changed jobs. Freed up 3 hours of commuting a day.

Wife wasn’t pulling weight with errands. She refused to drive. So that needed fixing.

Stop having to go to grocery store every single day.

Organize house a lot better. Lots of time wasted looking for clothes.

Get rid of anything not nailed down.