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> in my family there has been a simple question being raised for as many years i can remember but there has never been a satisfactory answer yet

if that is the case you should read to Malek Bannabi[1]: The Conditions of Renaissance, Question of Ideas in Muslim World, The Ideological Struggle in Third World Countries ...

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Malek_Bennabi