[_spoonman]

The two aren’t mutually exclusive and the roles change as the kid gets older.

When they’re newborns you are focused totally on providing: they can’t feed themselves, change their diapers, or bathe themselves.

When they get older they can do those things but then start having questions about the world and girls and faith. That’s when it really gets fun because you strengthen the bond.

So you’re always providing for the kid. Being there is the tougher part.

[giantg2]

Any two things involving time that can't be done simultaneously are, to a degree, mutually exclusive.

You can't be running a code review and chasing a two year old around the house.