[iron_ball]

I participate in a Discord that is kind of similar. Not the same one, because my example has totally optional pronoun choice. But they have reason to be cautious of newcomers: before they added an interview/onboarding step, they were continually brigaded by trolls of various levels of sincerity. The internet can be a harsh place, and I understand the desire to create a refuge.

[Quarrelsome]

I totally get _why_ its like that, and I'm not upset, its just unfortunate that this is a chasm of difference between very early internet culture.