[zasz]

My parents went through the Cultural Revolution, which involved being sent to a labor camp for a couple years, having various relatives harassed into committing suicide, and even though everyone in their age cohort experienced equally horrific things, I could tell something wasn't right about them, even as a kid. They, however, would not think of themselves as traumatized. I don't know about your case in particular, but in general, I think psychological injuries tend to leave a mark, even if they are normalized, and even if the sufferer is not necessarily aware of them.