[_lffv]

> They go quiet or form a tiny invite only groups to hide after an attempt to do something good that backfired because their skin is the wrong colour or they aren’t trans.

It really sounds like they accidentally offended someone, the person who was offended was so much so that they couldn't communicate why they were offended, and then your friends misinterpreted the issue.

[tick_tock_tick]

That's an odd reading of what they described. It sounds more like there friends did something good in the world but were told to sit-down and shut-up because they were the wrong race/gender/x.

[klyrs]

Telling somebody to sit down and shut up is an exercise of free speech.

[_lffv]

Yes, it sounds that way, but the event you (and they) describe has never happened.