[davtbaum]

on a) I came to the same realization years ago. The fact that its a hard decision inherently means that either solution can be the right solution

[loudtieblahblah]

i usually have analysis paralysis when the consequences of either decision is really dire. In short... i'm stuck between two bad choices.

[wintermutestwin]

That's exactly why I included realization b) :-)

I should have also added:

c) Sometimes, you perception has limited you to choosing between two choices. Change your perception enough to see that there are always a multitude of choices. You may not want to pick the 3rd+ choice, but knowing that you made your choices freely allows you to own the choice and the outcome.