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Noos | 4 years ago

They have to prioritize work because your kid gets sick, or gets out of school early, or you have to go to their event. Kids have much more time to disrupt your life, and parents need more accommodation than single people for flexible scheduling. It's single people who pick up the slack for you, the whole "negotiating" thing is BS because its rarely the disruptions are on a fixed schedule.

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klyrs|4 years ago

God forbid you get sick, injured, have a family obligation (marriage, funeral, etc), doctor's appointment, etc. If your management is so incredibly inflexible that you get punished for having events outside your control that impact your availability, then that's a problem with management. If you see parents having responsibilities as the problem, then your team/management is toxic. They want you to stay socially dependent on the team, to the point that you cannot have a life on or off the clock. Find another job, that's a sickness.

Or, stick it to the parents: go out, meet somebody, have a baby of your own. If that sounds impossible, the problem is almost certainly how you're spending your time. Probably a work/life balance issue.

nybble41|4 years ago

> God forbid you get sick, injured, have a family obligation (marriage, funeral, etc), doctor's appointment, etc.

This isn't a binary issue. Work/life balance is obviously important for everyone, but where that balance point lies varies depending on individual circumstances. Employees with children have all those same obligations plus the additional responsibilities related to their kids. They receive more accommodation, on average, than employees without children. Performance expectations relative to pay should be the same for everyone regardless of their situation outside of work but that isn't always the case. If you need an excuse to claim time off, those with more excuses will tend to get more time.

bradlys|4 years ago

Point is that the parents have all those things happen to. They just get the excuse of their children having those things happen to them and they get to take time off of work for it too. Whereas the single/childless/whatever people are not going to have that freedom. So, yeah, they’re gonna have to pickup the slack at work as per usual.