[adelpozo]

In the other hand, I look at myself. I place the selfview close to the lens and it appears that I am looking directly at the other party.

Idk why it works but I find it smoothing and allows me to control how I am being seen. Just my personal experience.

[underwater]

If you extrapolate that then you have a bunch of people all staring at a video of themselves for the duration of the meeting. No one is looking at you, but you feel on display and mentally fatigue yourself for nothing.

[haswell]

I also keep an eye on my self view, but not continuously throughout the entire call. I'll still pay attention to the person speaking and scan the rest of the cams like I would if I were in a conference room.

Doesn't need to be a constant thing, but more like glancing in the rear view mirror while driving. It's there when you need it, also there when you just want to check, but not going to keep you from the task at hand.