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Hi, I used to struggle with socializing a lot. Now I have a job where the main value I add (on top of other nerds who might do the same job) is that I’m sociable.

When I was in my early twenties, two resources helped me a lot:

- Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends and Influence People

- https://www.succeedsocially.com/

Both resources present algorithms, if you will, for getting people to like you— and for learning to like them as well. IMO that is the most important thing: you have to like people, at least in the moment, in order to get along with them. It’s okay to still be an introvert; I’ve learned one of they keys to this is to figure out when you just can’t socialize anymore and need to retreat. You can’t force it, but you can learn it and practice it.