[accountLost]

Yes, when possible it is better to give people time to figure out things by themselves. That's how you learn.

The question is why pointing out something wrong would have automatically damaged your relationship with her ?

Everyone can agree that making mistake is natural. Can't people learn not to get upset when being told they made one ?

One way is by exposure in an environment where the feedback is factual and without drama.

[jen729w]

I would have had no problem pointing the wrong thing out if she hadn't 'got it' herself, but I knew she would.

The thing to avoid here is being the know-it-all who tells everyone how things should be done when, given just a second, those people would figure it out anyway. Nobody likes that guy.