[Artistry121]

So in essence the way you were raised convinced you you'd rather someone not exist rather than have that childhood?

Is that because of what it did to you and your life or because of the stress on your parents?

[lotsofpulp]

Yes, I would not want another person to have the childhood I did (although I understand that many, many people around the world have much worse childhoods, including my parents). It did put stress on my parents, of course, but my main motivation is in the interests of the child(ren). Which I guess is also to not have stressed out parents.

I also think I was lucky to have had the life trajectory I did, partly due to just being good at school. My parents never taught me English (and we still do not speak English to each other), but I somehow never had a problem being successful in US schools. I doubt that is the case for many other kids in similar positions.

I was also lucky that I had access to online forums and educated adults to advise me on what choices to make, since my parents were not able to help me. I do not think I would have had a fraction of the success were it not for the internet giving me the ability to communicate with educated people familiar with how things work in the US.

[hdjjhhvvhga]

> So in essence the way you were raised convinced you you'd rather someone not exist rather than have that childhood?

Well, that is really a metaphysical question. If there was a way of knowing whether consciousness exists before conception and if so, what is its "quality of life", it would shed a new light on our perspective of not just when, but also whether to have kids and how many.