[mathogre]

Here's what I did and/or do.

1. I constantly ask trusted friends and family members if I was blundering in social situations. I asked my wife this evening, when our daughter had her boyfriend over for dinner. I didn't blunder. I asked anyway. I will ask during an event, especially if it lasts for hours. Ultimately when I blunder, I reprogram how I will respond when that situation arises again. While that could be a thousand little actions, I find I can generalize things, and that makes it easier.

2. Put yourself in tough social situations. I did fashion photography for 8 years as a hobby. I worked with 20+ models in the DC area, and did 2 shoots in NYC. Yes it was all about getting the photos, but to do that you focus your attention on the model. This book helped: "How to Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. Ultimately, the intimidatingly gorgeous woman in front of you and your camera is a regular human who comes from some place, has family and friends, and has interests. When you work with someone like that for 8 or so hours, you need to make her feel comfortable.

3. Work with some successful and highly extraverted people, whether in business or in a volunteer situation. I was working with and being mentored by someone who owned the world. There were no limitations with him. He could go anywhere, do anything. Obviously he didn't actually own the world, but his presence said he did. This was in a volunteer situation. This person was very hard working, wealthy, an overall good person, but took no garbage from anyone. He was also very smart. Actually there were a couple others like him in that volunteer situation - power, money, capabilities, responsibilities, accomplishments. Learn from them.

Good luck! This is what I did. You'll always feel socially awkward, but if you work at it, you can power through it in the tough situations. Hope this helps!