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diiq | 3 years ago

You don't need focus; you need to understand what your goal is. If you're dropping projects that look "unfinished" because, in reality, you've gotten what you want from them, that is fine. It only looks sloppy from the outside.

If you're dropping projects before you get what you want from them, introspect on why. What's happening that leads you away? Address that.

I recommend reading Barbara Sher's "Refuse to Choose"; it provides some useful tools for people who like to do 70 different things, including how to have lots of ideas without having to act on every one immediately.

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bsima|3 years ago

One of my favorite rap lyrics is "Ya nervous, because you lack a purpose" https://genius.com/837334

I'm usually a terrible speaker, but when I was running a startup I really believed in, I made great presentations and was very extroverted. Find a purpose and the rest takes care of itself.

diiq|3 years ago

That is also valuable, but a different premise! Barbara Sher originally wrote books based on that premise: find Your Thing and you'll shine -- but discovered that some people didn't seem to have A Thing, and any talk of having A Thing made them stressed and unhappy.

The Barbara Sher book for people who want to find and follow Their Purpose is "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was". "Refuse to Choose" is for people who want to do 70 things but the thought of doing any one of them exclusively is horrifying.

ryeguy_24|3 years ago

This book recommendation was also in my comment. Funny how this book resonates with lots of non-finishers. Acceptance was key for me.

“When you quit something, maybe you already got what you came for?”

zerkten|3 years ago

Thanks for sharing this. I'm the type of person that likes to do 70 different things and didn't think to look for resources that might better support that way of living. I discovered way too late that I had anxiety. Almost everyone along the way suggested, or forced, some form of focus or refinement, which always ended up making me feel sad.

DaltonCoffee|3 years ago

GP uplifted my perspective on my projects' progress as well. I have anxiety, adhd, go to aa, am exhibit a, etc. It's a tiger to ride but I wouldn't have it any other way!

I'm going to dig back in tonight with a fresher outlook, will look at that Sher book too.

czbond|3 years ago

Thank you for the book recommendation. If the Post O.P. is like me - he should get the Audible version. Releases 4/19/22