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>Too often for me, I have tried to figure out a solution to a problem, when someone was just trying to let me know how they feel

John Gray addressed this in "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" - I believe he argued that this is the #1 mistake men make in relationships.

IIRC, he also argued that the #1 mistake women make in relationships was trying to help men by giving unsolicited advice.