[JohnWhigham]

11. Get a prenup. No, really, do get one.

While true, unfortunately in many (blue-leaning) states, they're starting to become at the judge's discretion. Absolutely sickening to be honest.

[upupandup]

was just going to mention that prenups really no longer carry the weight that people think it does. For 2 years, whether you are married or not, exposes you to the same liability a married individual would face in the event of a break up here in BC which is crazy.

> Couples who have been living together for two years share the same legal rights as married couples in BC, including a 50/50 split of debts and assets—excluding pre-relationship property, inheritances and gifts.

With a rate of 40% for divorce, a pre-nup may no longer be just for marrying couples, it may be needed for any relationship where cohabiting occurs. Also, there is absolutely no chance the judge will side with the men in places known.

[systemvoltage]

Oregon state has destroyed my good friend’s entire life. Child taken away, only get 4 hours a week of time with his kid. My friend is smart, kind and nicest person you’ll ever meet. Personal net worth fucked.

One of the reasons for me to consider leaving California.

[dragonwriter]

> Oregon state has destroyed my good friend’s entire life.

Sorry to hear that.

> One of the reasons for me to consider leaving California.

You do realize that California is not an administrative subdivision of Oregon, but a completely different state, right?

[pc86]

Did he have a prenup?

[armc]

A good prenup is a reasonable/minimalist one. The more aspirational the prenup, the less likely it is to be enforced.