[markshuttle]

Life after high school is also full of trauma and difficulty. I think one of our problems in society today is that advertising and social media pump out a false narrative of beauty and success which makes people feel like failures just because they are suffering and struggling, when both of those things are the act of living as far as I can see.

How do you deal with adversity? How do you deal with peer pressure? How do you motivate yourself to work on things that feel irrelevant? How do you choose your hobbies and the people you associate with? Those are important things to assess in a potential colleague. And this is just one potential angle on how one might assess them.

As for "making stuff up that sounds good", you are correct, some people are better at that than others. Fortunately we have clear and objective measures of that to work with so forewarned is forearmed.