[conroydave]

Id recommend either some time off, or change of scenery as best paths forward. While not a complete solution, it will may help with - stagnant salary - work life balance - isolation

And on the "rock star" comment, I wouldn't sweat it. Been in software 20 years now and wouldn't consider myself elite either. Plenty of opportunities out there for experienced and reliable programers that dont require you to cram for LeetCode or DS & Algos. Oh, and we all piece code together from multiple sources and there is no shame in that.