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itnAAnti | 3 years ago

In an argument with a loved one, “winning” is often losing.

You have to let go of trying to win and instead try to understand. As soon as you stop trying to win, that’s the moment you find win/win.

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Cerium|3 years ago

In A Family Argument, If It Turns Out You Are Right, Apologize At Once! -- Lazarus Long

Anyone worth being around does not argue because they think they are wrong, but because they think they are right. That means there must be a rational way to believe the opposite of what you do. To solve the argument and find a path forward requires considering from their viewpoint. The questions I ask myself are: what assumptions might we differ on? What differences in value of outcomes do we have? Usually it is a simple misunderstanding, but it can take some work to find it.