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unknownus3r | 3 years ago
You’re never going to get rid of it entirely because humans are an inherently hierarchical species and bullying is a method of establishing hierarchy and dominance.
While trying to punish going over board may be a good thing, this whole “let’s all hold hands and sing cumbiyah” and get rid of bullying is nonsense.
No two people are the same, if one is smarter or stronger than the other, the lesser competitor will use tactics like bullying or social engineering to try to establish dominance. Strong competitors use it as well to disinvite challengers. We reward this at every level of our society so to pretend that it’s evil in children is really preparing them for being dysfunctional when they become adults.
The true solution to getting bullied is to:
- fight back ferociously
- get them to bully someone else
- take it and be a loser
I got bullied a lot when I was a kid, I had to learn to be tough
InefficientRed|3 years ago
IME bullying -- actual bullying, not power contests or nasty office politics -- isn't even remotely normal in office settings.
> The true solution to getting bullied is to...
...ignore it if isn't serious or tell an adult if it is serious.
> fight back ferociously
Anything physical is de facto serious and should be dealt with via adults and not between children; at least in my bubble, physical violence between school-aged children is rare and taken very seriously. A bully physically harming other children would receive a serious punishment, the parents would be in the loop, and the school counselor would be heavily involved with that child for the remainder of the school year.
Anything systemic and sustained, or targeting immutable attributes, is also de facto serious.
It's possible that things are different in your social environments, but "bullying" as I understood it as a kid is no longer even remotely socially acceptable.
_zzaw|3 years ago