[jseban]

> How is the platform not a total failure based on this? Doesn't everyone of the guys not in that top 20 percentile turn around and tell everyone it is garbage?

Yeah it is total garbage. Even when you put in all the work to get matches and arrange dates (which takes a ton of work), it's still basically a blind date, so when you actually meet there's still only a small chance that you will actually match.

And you always get worse matches, as a man, through the apps compared to real life. You will pay a price for that convenience of swiping.

There's an increased risk for women when they let men bypass that filter of being sociable and brave enough to befriend people in real life social situations.

If a woman can already go to a bar and easily pick out a guy, and easily judge the men, why would they use a dating app? It only makes sense if they somehow would get better matches there, so the men will have to lower their standards as a result of that convenience.

I just see online dating, and classified ads in the paper before that, as a way for people who don't fit the social norm to meet. And that's fine. But I don't see any reason for everyone to start doing that, and people who are normally sociable will just have a worse experience.

[DeathArrow]

>it's still basically a blind date, so when you actually meet there's still only a small chance that you will actually match.

The chance is small only if you are very picky or don't know how to optimize for the outcomes.

Dating can be seen as anything else in life: a game or a competition. Some people are naturally better, some people can learn to really do it good.