[flitzofolov]

These are three options, there are more:

Option 1: Expand the pool - learn to be turned on by and interested in a wider variety of people.

Option 2: Convert an existing relationship, perhaps a platonic friendship, to a mutually beneficial partnership.

Option 3: Genuinely give up, allow yourself to relieve yourself of any expectations, and try to become mindful of the internal pressures you are applying on yourself as a reaction to your own childhood etc.

[actfrench]

Option 2 sounds most interesting and fun. Option 3 is what feels most effective but also impossible to force.

Option 1 I have really really done. I’ve dated such a huge variety…

[flitzofolov]

In what sense were the people you dated varied? Gender? Age? Class? Race? Nationality? Geography? Lifestyle?

What are your expectations of your potential partner?