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samorozco | 3 years ago

Here is what I will say. If you always leave when you feel this way you'll never get better. I used to be you, I was always awkward and felt awkward around my co-workers. For me this wasn't just at work this was in every aspect of my life, I was very anxious all the time. It was an underlying insecurity that I hadn't dealt with yet.

It took me years to overcome the anxiety and feeling of awkwardness but it's because I didn't understand why I was feeling that way.

Here is what I'll say as some closing advice. No one else thinks you're weird, or awkward or an outcast. You do. They think you're the new guy and it's just going to take some time to break that barrier. Running away is not going to fix it.

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a-dub|3 years ago

the op explicitly states that they feel like an outcast in that specific workplace, not that they suffer from generalized social anxiety.

i am happy to hear that you have overcome your generalized social anxiety. i caution you against suggesting that someone stay in an apparently toxic workplace environment and chalk the problems up to flaws in their own character. you may be steering them down a path that could result in irreversible damage to their livelihood.