[Ecio78]

wouldn't you be able to do the same even with FK in place? what FK would prevent you from doing would be deleting a user before all his relationships are removed. That should prevent you to ending up with inconsistent data inside the tables.

[hamandcheese]

In my experience with regular Postgres databases shared across many teams, inconsistent/broken references is seen as a much less risky thing to do than, say, cascading a delete. Usually a broken reference is of no consequence. And you don’t use FKs, people tend to bake that into how they code things without much trouble.

[structural]

I've oft wished for a system where FKs could be used to automatically mark rows as invalid instead of deleting them, and you could inspect the nature of the broken reference as a property of the row/object. Then broken references can be cleaned up when appropriate, possibly never depending on the application.

This gives the neat property of being able to do data entry in parallel, too - different people may insert records into two tables linked by a FK relationship, it's nice for this to happen in either order. It also allows the user to query for exactly what rows will be affected by a cascaded delete, or to perform the operation in steps.