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Letter to a Co-Founder

42 points| kingsidharth | 14 years ago |64notes.com

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[+] Udo|14 years ago|reply
Disregarding the weird tone, the letter makes some interesting points.

  None of us is the best person out there.
This whole notion of someone out there being the best programmer (or person, or whatever) is fallacious. While there are certainly many degrees between "awesome" and "failing", it's important to recognize that either you're indeed awesome at what you're doing right now or it's time to move onto something else. Of course, the definition of "awesome" is completely subjective so you have a lot of room for introspection there.

  That’s irrelevant! Because we are best for each other.
This is an important sentiment, certainly one of the most crucial ones in a co-founder relationship.

I have seen what it looks like when it's not working out: we were friends before the startup, we liked to talk about crazy ideas all day. But a while into the startup, all we talked about was money and disappointment. This created an atmosphere of misery and failure, long before the actual failure of the company. If I were to do a startup again today, I would look for this kind of synergy the author is describing. It's important. It's not enough to just be a bunch of dudes hacking away at stuff.

[+] d3x|14 years ago|reply
"It's important. It's not enough to just be a bunch of dudes hacking away at stuff."

I Disagree. This is the most productive environment for me. The issue is that people set out to start a company and not solve a problem. A bunch of dudes siting around hacking to start a company might not be the best idea but a bunch of dudes sitting around trying to solve a problem is the best way to start.

[+] paulnelligan|14 years ago|reply
Let this be a lesson: never write a letter to a co-founder while drunk or high!!
[+] bdfh42|14 years ago|reply
If anyone were to send me this I would be forced to spend the next two nights trawling through their commits to find out just what it was they screwed up - and then I would look for a new gig.
[+] problemmaker|14 years ago|reply
Great letter, if your aim was to bed your co-founder. Honestly, as a co-founder of a tech company myself, receiving something like this would freak me out. No hate to anyone homosexual or otherwise, but lay off the cheese, please? King-sidharth, are you rather a 'Queen'?
[+] Achshar|14 years ago|reply
I am not sure if i would really want to be sentimental with my co-founder. It's not a (romantic) relationship we are in. I know making such a letter with "brogramming" attitude would be quiet opposite of this but I believe any such letter should be a balance of "feelings" and get-things-done ("brograming") attitude. This seems to lean a bit on the "feelings" side.
[+] twidlit|14 years ago|reply
In the words of Señor Chang. GAYYYY! Seriously, the letter is a GREAT idea but the gushing and sensuality will make MY co-founder think i'm in love with him or something. Tone it down a bit and it will be perfect and much needed too.
[+] kabuks|14 years ago|reply
Really?! It's almost 2012 and you're still using 'GAY' as a derogatory term.
[+] jiggy2011|14 years ago|reply
I'm assuming it was deliberately written like this for comic effect.
[+] kingsidharth|14 years ago|reply
I got that from a lot of people, trust me it's cultural.
[+] n9com|14 years ago|reply
lols, were you high when you wrote this? how on earth does this make front page on HN?
[+] kingsidharth|14 years ago|reply
Because your's is not the only point of view.
[+] robjohnson|14 years ago|reply
Well...that was different.
[+] eps|14 years ago|reply
That's an emerging new genre - the startup fan fiction.
[+] rrrazdan|14 years ago|reply
You can't fix a typo is very directly related to how you run a startup. Not eating a burger 'properly' is not.
[+] darkmethod|14 years ago|reply
The take-aways are:

0. no one is perfect.

1. co-founders keep each other on task.

2. relationships and perspectives matter.

I'm grateful for my co-founder too, however I'll be sending him this for a laugh which I realize is not oa's intent. But then again, doing so may just build that relationship that much stronger which is the oa's intent. Ironic, no?

[+] urbanjunkie|14 years ago|reply
I struggled, but ultimately succeeded in not throwing up in my mouth whilst reading this.