[misterspaceman]

Happiness is a state of mind. You don't find happiness hiding under a rock one day, you have to make it for yourself.

Also, don't get all of your validation from other people, because it can be very inconsistent; instead, get your validation through things you are good at (like hobbies, skills, etc.)

[XCSme]

> get your validation through things you are good at (like hobbies, skills, etc.)

This is a double-edged sword, some say that you should be happy with what you already are and not base your happiness on what you can do. What do you do if something happens to you and you lose the ability to perform that certain skill? Does that mean you are constantly unhappy now?

[bombcar]

And if you can’t be happy now, you won’t be happy later.

And if something is required to make you happy, you are letting your happiness be controlled by others.